Why I Support Same-Sex Marriage

As the Supreme Court prepares to issue its ruling on same-sex marriage, I came across Get Married Texas! a group who is working with local officials to make it quick and easy for same-sex couples to become legally married in Texas. I support same-sex unions for a few reasons. The religious idea that marriage should be between a man and a woman, has nothing to do with the constitution. I say, let your religious convictions be your own guide – not everybody elses. Marriage between two people comes with loads of benefits, not to mention the commitment that one person makes to another to care for them in life. Why would we deny someone the right to choose another person to spend their life with? To support each other in love and eternity? What do I care about their sex life? Same-sex marriage is not about the sex, it’s about two adults making a choice. A freedom they should be entitled to, just like any other couple. If marriage is an institution that supports people and families, let that institution do that – for everyone. Up until 48 years ago, interracial couples couldn’t get married for religious reasons. This is called bigotry. It is societal intolerance. We all know since the beginning of humankind, lovers have covered themselves in secrecy because of religious laws, rules and moral judgement. Many have been killed along the way. Let’s just stop with the insanity of policing the sex lives of grown adults. Since 36 states have already legalized same-sex unions, I anticipate the ruling will be favorable for same-sex couples across the nation. It...

The Whitewashing of Religion

Today, I had coffee with one of the most beautiful souls to have crossed my path recently. He is the Rector of an Episcopal church where I live. It is interesting how we connected and how this friendship has opened a new dialogue in my life. During these past few days, I’ve really opened up about my background, where I came from and my experience in the church. The reason for this is because I felt outcast and bullied for the spiritual choices that I’ve made with my life today. The main part of what I do is teach meditation. I have developed a way, for me, that allows me inner freedom and gives me strength. From there, I work with others to develop their own meditative practices that will support them with their personal goals. My passion is in helping people challenge themselves to question their beliefs and shatter their illusions. These are the things that hold us all back from reaching our true potential. In a world where strict religious dogma isn’t a factor, a meditation practice like this is fairly innocuous. However, where there is a fear-driven belief system involved, this type of meditation is serious business. After removing myself completely from the church, I was left a bit of awash in searching for community. I have lovingly piecemealed together a community that supports and accepts me, as I do them. There was however, this issue with the church. The fracturing of the church and all of it’s pieces. It is disconcerting to me how we all function outside of each other, often with a the common...

Evangelical End Times

As a former evangelical Christian, I am especially sensitive to the teachings within the belief system. This morning, I came across an article about the Greek Prime Minister, a man who is atheist and refused to take his oath of office on the Bible, which is fitting, since he doesn’t believe in it. This is a man whose message is ushering in global peace, with love, harmony and social justice. Because of this, he is now, apparently Satan. If you want to see the article I’m referencing, it’s here. Here is the thing…evangelicals have been looking for this evil “anti-Christ” for over 2,000 years. It’s time to stop it and here’s why. First, it’s fear. If perfect love casts out all fear, then why are evangelicals looking for fearful things? Stop it. Second, it’s judgement. Evangelicals cannot wait for God to come down here and squash all the evildoers, the gays, Muslims and everyone else that hasn’t accepted their gospel. We were not born with a belief system. Everyone is programmed with one by someone else. No one is inherently right. NO ONE is right. Everyone thinks their belief system is right for everyone else. Do you not see the insanity of this? Do you not see that you are part of the problem? Stop it. Stop looking for a judgement day. Every moment that you spend looking for judgement is a moment that you have separated yourself from Christ. Think about it. Third, it separates you from being love. See that baby? That sweet, innocent baby? That was you. That was me. That is everyone. We are all sweet innocent...

And I was Born Again

I remember the moment I was born again. It wasn’t in a church. It wasn’t during a “conversion” conversation. I was alone, in a room with about 120 other people. I was sitting in a Vocal Awareness session led by Arthur Joseph during a week long workshop to become a better public speaker. It was strange work, holding your tongue with a washcloth while making noises from your throat. I was self-conscious and felt silly. Then came the moment. I had an overwhelming sensation that took me back to the time I was standing in my back yard as a five year old child. I suddenly grew very still. I was aware like I had never been aware before. I wanted to crawl under the chair. As soon as the session ended, I raced up to my room and wept. And wept. And wept some more. I reconnected to a time in my life where I didn’t have a voice. Where I hid in my room, in closets, in books. And wept. My friend Brenda was there, caring for me. She brought me alkaline water and made me oatmeal. I’ll never forget that. The next session that afternoon was to provide comedic relief. It was a session on how to insert humor into your speeches. I couldn’t find it within myself to go. It was like I was looking at myself from the outside. I was urged to go back into the space, that the workshop had been designed to take you deep then bring you back up. To ebb and flow. What I learned about myself during that time is that...

What the Duggar Scandal Did For Me

Something about the recent Josh Duggar scandal caused me to look inside and finally decide to express my journey as what I have come to understand to be a “disenfranchised evangelical”. For years, I struggled in silence as I questioned my faith and fought to define what spirituality meant to me, while deprogramming myself from the idea of eternal damnation to hell for even considering stepping onto this path. As I grew into a position of strength with what I knew to be true for me, I was still left with friends and family members who were concerned for my salvation and soul. As I followed this story, I saw the storm of opinions from all sides – I have friends who are atheists and friends who are extremely right wing and conservative. What I cannot deny, is that this situation is forcing everyone to come to terms with what is known as Christian Patriarchy. It’s time we see this scandal for what it is: the only logical outgrowth of sick teachings and demented theology meant to enshrine male privilege and keep women and children weak and voiceless. ~ Captain Cassidy During these last couple of days of writing publicly about my coming out and the spiritual bullying that is the fundamentalist movement, I connected with Teresa Macbain, former Methodist pastor turned atheist, after reading this article she penned about the toxic systems in the church that allow for systematic abuse. I had to say something. I had to join the voices of the many disenfranchised who have been damaged and left in the wake of the unsustainable teaching that is patriarchy. Cloaked in ideas that it...