On Right and Wrong…and Evolvement

I opened my editor this morning to write this blog post with one thing in mind…then something happened. I began listening to a recording of a call that I was scheduled to be on this past Sunday night, but missed because I got caught up making a triple batch of white chili for my friends and family and lost track of time. I had so much to weigh in on around that call, that I decided to just write about it here, especially since it ended up correlating with what I was going to write about anyway. Cleaning out email, I came across one with the subject line “[FINAL chance] FreshMember is shutting down..” the email went on to say “There’s less than 36 hours left before FreshMember prices are raised and the lifetime option is GONE.” I didn’t even have to open it to know that it was going to pitch me an “Act now or forever lose” spiel. My background is in sales and marketing. I taught courses on how to market more effectively and I’ve spent way more money than I wish to admit buying products and systems to help me get better results. I put myself under constant pressure to keep up with techniques, platforms and new ways of doing things. I was known to be quite savvy with knowledge, but became ineffective due to overload. There are just way too many people who are doing incredible things and will sell you something to teach you how they did it. Eventually, it became insanity. I wrote a course called Build Your Platform; Build Your Revenue that showed people...

My Everyday Disruption

Most of us are busy with our daily lives, taking care of our families, showing up for work, cleaning the house, just doing our thing. Some of us have chosen a unique path a little outside the mainstream, perhaps in a spiritual space, as I have. As I connect with life coaches, therapists, healers, bishops, people of faith, shamans, and yogi’s, one thing is abundantly clear – to those who have chosen this path, our lives are dedicated to supporting humanity. One of the reasons people are drawn to this work is because somewhere along the way, we began healing ourselves. Whether it was overcoming childhood trauma, transitioning out of damaging relationships and patterns, or an insatiable quest for knowledge, the truth and ultimate freedom. As we learn techniques and methods for overcoming and creating abundance in our lives, it is only natural for some of us that the next state of progression is to begin teaching and sharing what we’ve learned to benefit others. Some do it through pastoral care, some through private programs, some through workshops and conferences, some through writing books and giving lectures. There is an abundance of resources and individuals available to help people transition from where they don’t want to be to somewhere more positive, happy and alive. Somewhere along the way though, we can get stuck with being so positive, happy and alive, we become oblivious to the pain of the humanity that surrounds us, forgetting we were either there once ourselves, or if it wasn’t for our work, we could be there now. It is to the point that if we are uncomfortable,...

Liberated Activism

A couple of weeks ago, I was having a Skype visit with my new friend Chandra Nicole, founder of Rebel Academy. During our time together, the phrase “liberated activism” spilled from my lips. The phrase was so profound, I wish that I would have had a paper and pen to write it down so that I wouldn’t forget what I had said. Fortunately, Chandra kept that neatly held for me when I was ready to remember it again. Today’s Love Note… “Spiritual blinders” is a phrase often referred to in the fundamentalist Christian faith that objects to seeing or absorbing information, thoughts or ideas that contradict the Bible. This meant denying and rejecting any concepts that challenged your ideas and beliefs about the “Word of God”. In the spiritual community, I have found a similar equivalent, and that is when we throw out feel good phrases to deflect and resist the spiritual truth or expression of another. Yesterday, I wrote about spiritual bullying. This fear based oppression is weaved throughout fundamentalist Christianity. It’s also weaved throughout the spiritual community, and I’ll tell you why. We have often have risen out of such dark places, we work hard to stay in “state”. Staying in state is the idea that we are to remain positive, happy and joyful at all times. It applies in Christian doctrine and in what could be considered New Age, Metaphysical or spiritual movements however, we often take it out of context and in doing so, repress our natural human emotion in the process. This is neither healthy for us or our relationships. They tell us to wear...

I’m Coming Out

Many people have asked me what religion I am now and wonder why I chose to separate from my fundamentalist Christian faith. Today’s Love Note… I was five years old. I was standing in the backyard, gazing into the horizon. I felt such peace and oneness with everything. I felt so connected and grounded. I rubbed my legs together and BAM, got stung by a bee. I remember feeling so upset that I had gotten zapped out of my peaceful state. I don’t know that I ever returned to that state until many years later. I had a pretty interesting childhood, but I’ll just speak to the part about fitting in. Like Marianne Williamson says in her book A Return to Love, it was like everyone had the instruction manual to life and I was clueless. I absorbed what everyone else did or said to define how I was supposed to show up. That may sound silly now but remember, I was a still a child. I was always sensitive and reserved . I probably turned into a rebel in high school because it was just too damned hard being an emotional softy. I couldn’t function with myself, so I turned into badass. I didn’t care about much of anything except having fun and doing whatever I wanted. I knew I wasn’t living the truth of my existence, but I didn’t even know where to start. After my mom moved away with my little brother, I fell into a hole. My only support system convinced me to leave my car and all my possessions and pick up their one way ticket to...

For Coaches (and anyone who serves clients)

Yesterday, I received an email from someone in the coaching industry who proposed to answer a community question about the dilemma of having a need to “over deliver” to their clients. The questioner went on to say that they felt controlled, giving into various demands in an attempt to not disappoint their clients. In the age of a multitude of easily accessible information, it can feel overwhelming to keep up with what we might perceive to be client demands. As professionals in our industry, we take on the extraordinary task of consuming large amounts of information in an effort to keep up, stay sharp and bring the latest modes of support to the people we serve. In our quest for knowledge, we can create an internal pressure to keep delivering new information and services. I know I’ve found myself there. I still struggle to maintain the balance of keeping my work within a core structure and updating my offerings in a way that might serve humanity best. While the answer might lay within any advice given, such as a childhood need for validation and acceptance from others, it might mean something else entirely. Today’s Love Note… We do our work because we love it, our work is an extension of our love. To feel not accepted by our clients might mean that there is more going on than not “loving ourselves enough”. It may mean that we are not sure that what we value is being valued by our clients. If there is a feeling that we are not doing enough, it could be because we are not sure we are delivering...

Blogging for Big Love – Part I

New websites with fun, quirky and shareable content are showing up every day. Their articles, videos and slideshows are filling our Facebook newsfeeds and our friends are sharing their pages. So, how are these sites getting so much attention? What’s with all of the clutter, ads and pop-up windows you experience when you visit these sites? Once you understand what some of these sites are doing with other people’s content, you’ll begin to see through the “click bait” and perhaps become inspired to start your own website, only using their tactics for the greater good. Today’s Love Note… I began to notice a trend with popular websites such as BuzzFeed and within a relatively new site called First To Know. Some of the same layouts and ads were appearing in multiple sites that I visited throughout the day, sites that mostly from links in my Facebook feed. I did catch myself clicking some of these ads that appeared to be articles. Buzzwords such a “horrifying”, “mistakes”, “insane”, and “bizarre” filled the headlines. Teasers such as “WATCH”, “Dear Women”, and “BREAKING” just beg for you to go look at the next “frightening” thing. Today, I found myself on a First to Know article about an abandoned French Chateau. There were a few paragraphs, a slideshow and a rather grainy picture of the owners. I decided to dig deeper. I searched for “Chateau de Gudanes” in Google and found their website here. As I clicked through the pages of the actual Chateau de Gudanes website, I fell in love with their project. I even discovered this 15-day decorative art workshop that features excursions, field trips, guided tours, and culinary...